Question:How is the decision about the employee communicated to the employee?

How is the decision about the employee communicated to the employ...?

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How can leaders communicate with employees about why certain deci...?

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Need advice about unsure boyfriend?

Q: My boyfriend and I have been together one and a half years and living together for about 9 months now. We have a great relationship, we're both happy, or at least I was happy, but things are changing. After all this time, my boyfriend isn't sure about me, even though I love him very much and have given him no reason to doubt me. I understand not being ready (to get married), but why would you stay with someone you don't see yourself marrying someday. We have talked about this and his solution is: I leave him or I wait until someday (which may never come), just so he can be sure (being sure does not include a ring). Now, you have to understand that being not ready, doesn't bother me, but after a year and a half and you’re not sure, that's not okay with me. I have read, researched, and ambushed my friends, family, and co-workers about this (I ask them, "How long were you with your wife/husband, before you knew she/he was the one). The reply is always the same, (except my parents who both gave the same answer, "About a month") "With in the first year." Of course, they weren't ready for marriage (or at least a couple weren't) but they were sure. Here is some background information, about how I got into this situation: I was unhappy and my parents were moving to Montana, so I came too. I met my current boyfriend here and decided to stay. We are staying here for his career (he doesn't want to have to start over), until he gets a little more experience (another year and a half). I am from California and my career was going well enough, that my earning potential was hitting near $65,000. Unfortunately, there are no jobs in my field here, so I had to take a pay cut, about $30,000 a year. The worst part is, I don't want to live here, there is little culture or mix of food choices (I'm used to San Francisco). Now, I work a job I don't really like. I live about an hour away from my job and during the season, my hours go from 80 hours every two weeks, to about 130 hours every two weeks (I work every day and my days off are one at a time, few and far between). I have been trying to get telecommuting work (freelance), so I can have a nice normal job, Monday through Friday, 9 to 5, and I wouldn't have to drive to work. Before it was no problem (getting freelance work), my resume spoke for itself, and I always got calls for the jobs I applied for. But now everything has changed! I have been out of my field for almost two years now and I can't even get an unpaid internship, believe me I have tried. That's not all though, I'm even spending more money by living with him. My employer has employee housing, which I moved out of, to move in with him. It only costs about $300 a month, which includes internet, cable, and utilities. I now pay for half of rent, food, and utilities (we don't have cable or internet) which is about $500 a month. I also fill up my gas tank every three days, which is about $60 a week or $240 a month. When I lived at work, I never had to fill up my gas take. So, by living with him, I am spending $440 a month. I also get 50% off food, at work, so my food bill has gone up $75 too. I have about $9,000 in school debt, which I am trying to pay off, $1,000 down and counting, so by not living with him, I could be paying off my debt a lot faster. But, my biggest problem is, that I love my boyfriend or this would be an easy decision. We love each other, our relationship is great, and we really communicate well... not to mention he is the only guy I have been with... who I click with intellectually, emotionally, and ***SEXUALLY*** I am 26, so I only have 4 years left before I turn 30 (I hear your 20's are your best years to date and find a quality mate) and nine years to have healthy babies, without a huge risk (I'd like to have between 2 and 4 kids). My career is going down the tubes, so my boyfriend's career can flourish, I work way more than I ever expected, at a job I don't like, I dislike where I live (which makes me unhappy), and I am sacrificing so much (he isn't sacrificing anything, but personal space and alone time. He also spends less money with me living with him) all for a man who is unsure. I know that this will be a personal choice, but I really need your advice.

A: First of it is difficult to see what's in your boyfriend's mind. It's not any norm where once you've dated a year or somewhere close to it, you need to get married. I dated for 4 years and only in the last 4th year, we got engaged and decided to marry. Now I'm divorced. I too live closer to san francisco. So first off depends on how old your boy friend is, it's important to know what marriage means to him. In all this time of dating, you should have some idea of whether he likes kids, or wanted to married. Or is he planning to improve his career and then get married. So think a bit positive. The reason he's still with you, is that for some reason (or many reasons) he's very comfortable with you. But in general , we are not as mature in our 20's than in our 30's. Many say that men really mature only in their early , mid thirties. As long as you've a healthy lifestyle (exercise, diet , active), it's not a requirement that only getting married in your 20's is best for birth etc., You can still have a good physical life and babies in your early or mid thirties too as long as you stay fit. The most important thing is that you need to understand that both of you don't take each other for granted and have mutual respect for each other and each other's feelings. Sometimes it's nice to hear "I get enough space from my gf or bf". But that can also mean, they don't care too much about you. Relationship experts always say "Don't look at words , look at actions". So , rather than believing on what he says,look at what he does, how much he cares in day to day life. Now that you've difficult in your job, is he taking care of you well. What if you have no job at all? Will he take care of you full time and not leave you? If you get a positive reponse on qustions like these - it's good. REmember relationshps/marriage is not a vacation - It's a full time job. People shd respect other feelings and reciprocate. In summary, it's very important to talk it out directly or through counselling together and understand what his long term plans are about marriage, kids and the current reltionship both of you are in. It's absolutely important in a relationship that two partners should be able to freely communicate on all issues. If that's difficult, then if one of you is not open to discuss I think, it's time to move on.